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  • 政府名稱: Michael Key
  • 註冊號碼: K-54135
  • 年齡:37
  • 服務時間:15+ 歲月
  • 家鄉:芝加哥, IL
  • 句子:LIFE
  • 電流充電:謀殺, 企圖謀殺, Armed Robbery, 首頁入侵
  • 別號:邁克摹
  • 發布日期:N / A
  • 監獄所屬:大佬弟子
  • 影響圈:Kenneth Key
  • 機構:斯泰特維爾懲教中心
  • 如果你總是做你一直在做什麼, 那麼你將永遠得到你一直得到.

男子氣概 (部分 1)

manhood-defintion

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

The other day I was walking the yard with one of the lil homies and we happened to be walking behind a few guys who were talking. I could not hear everything they were saying, nor was I trying to. But as me and the lil homie walked past them, I heard one of the them tell another, “男人, y’all need to grow up and be men.”

Who teaches young boys to be men?

Two days later and I still can’t get that statement out of my head. For the past two days I’ve been really thinking about what it means to grow up and be a man, or to just be a man for that matter. I’ve been thinking back to my childhood and the role models I had growing up. Who teaches young boys to be men? In some cases it’s our fathers. In some cases it’s our schoolteachers, coaches or the man who lives next door. And sometimes it’s our mother’s boyfriend because our fathers are not around. But what of us who did not have a responsible positive role model? How do we as young boys learn and grow to be men?

My dad was in prison when I was growing up. He’s still in prison. Most of my uncles were getting high or alcoholics, and the ones who weren’t just weren’t around enough to give me the benefit of their knowledge, or I was just in the streets chasing that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Almost everything I learned about being a man, I learned from the big homies. 現在, the big homies were stone-cold killers, pimps, 混混, and thieves who thought nothing of beating the shit out of their girls or giving an easily influenced little bad ass nigga like me a gun to lace a nigga or a pack to sell for them. All the time they were giving me the science, as they say, on how to be proficient at either one. I was lucky because a lot of cats will put things in a shorty’s head and hands with no guidance or supervision, taking full advantage of the lil homie’s vulnerability, preying on his fears and nurturing his anger. I’m not saying the OGs didn’t do the same things to me to some extent because they did, but they also imparted the dangers and consequences of breaking or disregarding the rules of the game. Were they teaching manhood? To them they were. And in a sense, to me they were as well. To survive in a violent and hostile environment packed with all kinds of dangers the education I received from the big homies was instrumental. Is that way of thinking considered what a man should be in today’s society? 也許不會, but it is considered what a man should be in the ‘hood.

If I’ve given the impression that manhood in the ‘hood is simply about beating women, killing, stealing, and selling drugs, I apologize. That was not my intent. While those things were prevalent, the big homies also taught me a sense of honor, responsibility, love of family, brotherhood, and goal-setting. Were some of those goals misplaced? Of course they were. But that same guy who thought nothing of taking a life was the same guy who went home every night and kissed his family, sat down to dinner with his wife and kids, laid his children to rest at night, and made breakfast for his family in the morning before walking his children to school. In his mind the lessons he imparted to his children were of survival. 街道, called by some The Wild, are a dangerous place and if one doesn’t have the proper tools and mindset, he or she will easily fall prey to the more ferocious.

What’s more important – manhood or survival?

How can you teach one without imparting the other?

How are you maneuvering through life?

What lessons have you learned?

And more importantly who has taught you those lessons?

How have you been influenced by your environment?

Though young and impressionable, we all have that inner-voice that screams at us when something is wrong or when it hears bullshit. We have to learn how to listen to that inner-voice and take heed. We have to do it so often that it becomes second nature. That voice may very well be the difference between life and death or a life in prison.

Some of the big homies may be misguided in their teachings, but some mean well. And while some of their teachings may hold you down in the ‘hood, how will those teachings serve you in society at large? How will you survive out there?

Education is the key!

The only way to beat an alpha or have a fighting chance is to know its habits and how it moves. The game of life is no different from the games of the ‘hood. Arm yourself with the proper teachings and tools. In the ‘hood, you wouldn’t make a move on a rival without first getting the information you need for a proper offensive, without the proper weapon, so why would you attempt to move through life so knowingly unprepared?

After accepting personal responsibility and dedicating yourself to God and family, becoming a man is basically like being a mother. There’s no right or wrong way. It’s trial and error. And while others may have an idea of what your manhood should be, I advise you to first check their manhood and what it represents before you model yourself after it.

“I shall become a master in this art, only after a great deal of practice.”

-Eric Fromm

#RaiseUP

  

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