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  • Serikali ya Jina: Quaheem Edwards
  • Idadi kujiandikisha: 10800-084
  • Umri:28
  • Muda aliwahi:6 + yrs.
  • Nyumbani Town:Paterson, NJ
  • Sentence:20 yrs
  • Sasa Mfawidhi:Njama za Kusambaza, Silaha, Shahidi Vitisho
  • Alias:Ng'ombe-Splish
  • Kutolewa Tarehe:2024
  • Gerezani Maegemeo:Damu
  • Mzunguko wa Ushawishi:Charles Taylor Jr., Daudi Drone, Joshua Carrell, Tewhan Butler
  • Taasisi:USP Tucson
  • Mimi sasa kujua nini nataka nje ya maisha kwa mwenyewe, familia yangu na jamii yangu. Mimi ni madhubuti kuhusu kujenga na mabadiliko ya. Juu ya karatasi, Mimi daima kuwa na uhusiano. Mimi alichukua kiapo! Lakini mimi bang kwa sababu halisi sasa, au sababu za wachache: BADILISHA, Upliftment na PROSPERITY. Yawe!

Baba

This piece is dedicated to all young fathers and inspired by my daughter Dei’Ara Zhane Lewis.

Although I am not Dei’Ara’s biological father, there isn’t a soul who can tell me different. She is my motivation. Her mother Evelyn and I met when I was 19 years old and she was 28. Kwa bahati mbaya, the streets got in the way of me having children of my own. But with Dei’Ara I was content. She was 9 years old when I came into her life. Before me there were a couple of male figures around but none who were willing to play the role of father. Prior to me being indicted, Evelyn and I had been a couple for close to two years. In the beginning I was well aware that she and DeiAra were a package. With the love and respect I had for her, I was more than willing. Although I had no father duty experience, having my dad around growing up gave me the tools and experiences I needed to prepare.

Uvumilivu + Upendo + Mawasiliano = afya Mahusiano

With these keys, Dei’Ara and I clicked without any major struggles. I didn’t use financial means in order to create a bond. Everything came natural. Even though I was a sucker for her pouting and whining, what my daughter and I created left me with no regrets of not producing a child of my own.

After my arrest in 2004, Dei’Ara and I kept in contact through mail, visits and phone calls. Now at 17 umri wa miaka, Dei’Ara will graduate high school and prepare for college.

One thing us parents fail to realize when things do not work out: it’s about our children. We do not have to like one another or be in a relationship to raise our child together. But respect is a must. Fathers are quickly labeleddead-beatswithout any defense. I’ve witnessed this with a few of my friends. Whenever the mother prevents us from contacting and seeing our children because she hates you or we get on their nerves, or more than likely, we’re with someone else, this isn’t fair to us as fathers but also our children. It shouldn’t take a judge or courtroom for us to have understanding as parents. I believe when we bring others, especially the courts, into our business it heightens the problem. This thickens the line of division between parents.

For us fathers, we play a huge and important role in the lives of our children. We’re idolized by the little ones. I’ve witnessed this first hand with Dei’Ara. It’s the small things. Kwa mfano: whenever I’d go shopping and purchased a jersey for myself she had to have one.

Disagreement
Arguing and fighting in the presence of our children is a no-go. A shouting match won’t accomplish anything but discomfort in a household.

Favorites
Pia, it’s normal and alright for a child to have a favorite and be daddy’s little girl or momma’s boy. This isn’t important. But what it’s important that we do our best to make sure that our kids love both parents. Now when a child hates their mother or father we have a problem. This is unhealthy. We have to communicate. How can we saywe love our childrenbut hate the other half who played a role in bringing them into this world?

I’ll close with this:
To our fathers, do not allow financial set backs to force you into a life you’ll later regret. We all want and would like to give our children the world but visits behind glass takes a toll. Our youngins need us at home in their lives. And for those of you who didn’t have a father growing up, this alone should give you more reason to wanna be there.

Hatimaye, for those single parents who think it’s hard raising your child/children alone, just imagine the difficulty attempting to raise a child from prison.

Love your children through actions and respect their mothers.

  

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